


Very Important Warnings for Reverted Women
Marriage is not mandatory, but it is the best path for human nature (The Quran, al-Nur 32). It is perfectly normal for a Muslim to want to marry someone with whom they can share their faith. However, the fact that a man is born Muslim, speaks Arabic, is a person who memorized the Quran, has a beard and turban, etc., does not mean he is a good Muslim. In fact, most of these men’s knowledge of Islam is based on tradition, not the Quran. The traditional understanding of Islam is diametrically opposed to the Quran on many issues.
Also, don’t forget that many men intend to deceive you, take your money, and exploit you so they can easily go to the West. Some men may even be married but easily hide this from you. Do not marry someone who wants to marry you without knowing him well enough. Be careful. Our advice is to marry someone who was raised in your own culture, or even someone who, like you, accepted Islam later in life. This will greatly reduce cultural clashes.
Moving to a “Muslim” country may not be such a good idea. What is happening in many countries currently called Muslim is not true Islam. It is traditional Islam, completely detached from the Quran. In these countries, human rights, respect for women, and many other things are not at all like what you are used to in your region.
Finally, continue to learn your religion from the Quran. Then you will see that many things are different. For example: polygamy, child marriage, female circumcision, obedience to men, stoning, killing those who leave the religion, killing those who do not pray, banning music and images… These things are not forbidden according to the Quran, unfortunately, they are permitted by tradition. Remember, you chose Islam by reading the Quran, not because researching the Muslim culture, or Muslim tradition. Keep learning Islam from the Quran.